I never claimed to be normal, y’all. I just like to take the pretty pictures.
So this post will be a little out there, bear with me.
First. I have the coolest clients on the planet. I know this how? Because of Facebook. Well, not exactly because of Facebook. But also because of Facebook .Because it affords me a view into my client’s lives to see who they really are. In turn, I offer that to them. You can tune in on my page and find out why my kids are driving me crazy and also what I had for dinner and if it was saucy. Just how I roll.
Second, because I have Spidey Sense. I do. Don’t laugh. I can tell which bride is a bridezilla almost on the first initial email. If there are phrases such as “my special day” and the word “Vintage” or “Shabby Chic” I’m like 99.9999999 % sure it’s not going to work out between us and it’s because it’s you, not me.
I love weddings. I do. I love photographing them. Kind of a really weird thing to admit from a raging feminist divorcee wedding photographer. But somewhere deep in my Cinderella heart I believe in the dream of finding someone who totally “gets you”. Even if my own personal “gets you” includes a iron clad prenup
But I do not so much love the wedding industry that drives otherwise normal, sane, educated women to the brink of insanity. Smart, savvy, educated women who thought it “would never happen to them”. Woman who can run an entire office , work a second job and are brought to their knees because they suddenly think that if they don’t have Jordan Almonds wrapped in tulle their wedding is a failure because their mom and some bridal magazine told them so.
For the record, Jordan Almonds are totally gross. GAH!
It’s YOUR wedding. It’s YOUR life. Tradition is ONLY IMPORTANT IF IT MEANS SOMETHING TO YOU.
If it doesn’t mean something to you, then it’s just another thing you are doing for the sake of being like everyone else.
Don’t be like everyone else.
You dig?
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Kim, THANK YOU. I could not agree more and am so glad to know that there is another strong feminist wedding photographer out there who’s willing to say something. I just had a similar conversation with clients yesterday who are having a wedding completely their way and I wanted them to know how important that is and RARE. If I hear one more woman talk about the things she “should” do or things “she’s always dreamed of” that have nothing to do with her person, I’m going to lose it. Thank you for your rant, it inspires me. You rock and I am SO thankful that you trained me into this industry and gave me a feminist perspective from the get go. It has made a huge difference.
Love,
Emma
Right on, sista!
tara
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I absolutely agree there – sisters!
I would just add though – for a lot of my clients, the dream wedding means they can escape their humdrum daily lives – just for one momentus day. I doubt, here in Australia, our wedding arrangements in general have as much detail as yours. We’re a bit more basic.
Sorry if my feminism is a little different to yours.
Love this!!! xoxo
Love it!!!! At the moment pinterest, wedding blogs, mother of the bride, overbearing brides are making this industry become more of a headache for us photographers. I am finally telling clients when it will work and when their insane request will not. I recently had a bride ask me if I could make the shutter noise on my camera be silent. I told her, yea…. I will turn the camera OFF!!!!! Ugh!